A toxic relationship is defined as an unhealthy relationship between two or more individuals that has mutated into a situation that has the potential to become extremely harmful. These relationships can be very straining and can potentially ruin relationships, whoever they are with.
From personal experience, I can say that failed relationships with my parents led to me having a toxic relationship with someone I considered to be my significant other. I believe that my toxic relationships with guys is partially due to my failed relationship with my father. Many people do not understand that the relationships you develop while you are growing up set the stage for your future relationships.
I dealt with abandonment issues when my parents separated. My mother had full custody of me, I did not see my father for years, and we barely communicated. Since I didn’t have a strong relationship with my father, emotionally life was very hard for me because I felt as if I was the one to blame for their relationship not working out.
The saying "it takes a village to raise a child" is very accurate. It takes more than one person to raise a child; no one can do it on their own. Many people have said that you do not need both parents, and though I somewhat agree with that statement, I find that I also have to disagree. Personally, I believe you need your parents in your life to act as a guide on what a family should look like.
In order to have a healthy relationship with a partner, you must have a mutual bond, respect, trust, and compassion for one another. If you can not respect each other’s values and decisions, it will not work out. I believe that if we as people respect everyone and treat them the way that we wish to be treated, our relationships will be a lot more meaningful and healthy. The key to a healthy relationship is also forgiveness. We are all human and are bound to make mistakes at some point in our lives. We should always respect each and every relationship that we have with family or the people we date. Everything is a lesson learned and we all learn by trial and error.
No matter how toxic a relationship, if it holds value to you then there is always a possibility and a chance that you can work things out, but all individuals must put forth effort or it will be like fighting a brick wall.
Do you think that toxic family relationships ruin the chance of being in a healthy relationship with a significant other? What about a married couple who have been married for 8 years and are in an abusive relationship, is there any way to revive the relationship? Can toxic relationships be saved?